This blog is dedicated to helping women and men who are struggling with the aftermath of being assaulted or raped. I am also here to answer questions anyone may have about rape or assault. Being a victim of rape myself, I don't want people to feel shame, or like they have to keep quiet. This is a shame free, hurt free place to come and talk for support. Don't feel shamed into silence. Hopefully this blog and my story will help some of you, as well as help me cope with this horrible crime. **I am not a trained legal advice giver. If you feel like you are in immediate danger call the cops.**
I went to Internal Affairs and they took my report on the officer who was supposed to be handling my case. A detective has it and is going to investigate him, hopefully.
When I called the sergeant of detectives for a change he told me that they didn’t do that. I thought that was a little strange cause I feel like they should allow someone to be able to have that option if they don’t feel comfortable. He asked why I wanted a change and he was trying to cover up a tiny bit. When I told him that Internal Affairs has been notified he changed his tune. He said hed get back to me and he still hasn’t, its been a month. I’m not too worried since IA has it now.
I also have been experiencing repressed memory clashes of being molested as a child by an older female cousin. I noticed it surfacing over the summer, but I didn’t think that it would have the effect it has on me now. I’m angry and sickened and saddened by it. I do know for sure that I’m not telling my family about it.
Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
Even when you are going through hell God will always be there for you.
G.D Anderson (via fawcettstudent)
I really love this quote. And I think it is very useful when thinking about female characters in media.
The idea that we need to “make women stronger” is exactly the problem with the “Strong Female Character” trope.This idea that every single lady in a film must be a gun wielding, kung fu master assassin bad ass with a boy and arrow is fundamentally flawed.
Because, yes, we do need more female characters who can kick ass and take names.
But we also need narratives that focus on and empower female characters who are strong in other ways. You don’t need to make a dragon infested castle explode to be an empowered and empowering female character.(via foodeveryonedeserves)
I used to never have a problem with Beyoncé,until she said that she was feminist then release “Drunk In Love”.
Drunk in love has a lyric that Jay z raps that pokes fun at Tina Turners marriage with Ike Turner. Incase you’re unfamiliar with it,Ike beat and raped Tina throughout their marriage.
Beyoncé received a ton of backlash about it,especially from feminist groups. So being the mature woman that she is,Beyoncé sung drunk in love at the grammys. When that disgusting and horrible lyric came up,she sang it with her husband and smiled.
Fuck her. She’s not a feminist. Because if she truly believed in what it stands for,she wouldn’t have let her husband feature it or even rap about it. So that’s why I dislike her so much.
I don’t like Jay z because he’s arrogant. I know a lot of rappers are but my dad met him while doing security at Yankee stadium, said he’s a complete animal.
if the only sympathy you can offer to an abuse or rape victim is after hearing the lurid details you aren’t working in solidarity, you are working as a voyeur.
"real life doesnt have trigger warnings" imagine supermarkets taking all of the allergy warnings off of all of the foods and then being like "sorry sweetie, welcome to the real world (:" when everyone started going into anaphylactic shock
Or movies stop having previews or ratings and 5 year olds are crying in Quentin Tarantino movies and their parents are saying “time to grow up (:”
I’m sorry it happened to you.
But, I see those posts too and it used to make me feel like I couldn’t believe in what I believe and have the sex I have. I talked to my therapist about it and she said that if I feel safe and comfortable with my boyfriend or partner then its normal.
You said you have safe words and guidelines, and I’m assuming your boyfriend knows about your rape, all of those to me say that your comfortable with him and that’s okay to be a sub.
I personally believe that if your not hurting anyone and if you have clear cut spoken consent for EVERY act then its okay.
[TW/CW: Rape] The year I turned twelve, all the little girls were sent to a self defence class
just in case.
The first thing we were taught was how to get away.
The second was how to fight.
I can’t remember the first time hearing about rape
even though it’s been around longer than human history has been recorded
but I remember my classmate telling us about her uncle
and I remember watching, shocked stiff,
as her shoulders shook and her mouth broke around,
‘he wouldn’t stop.’
It was the first of too many stories I overheard
of girls getting ripped into.
(Last year, a girl told me about her first time at age 13
when she woke up from her debut with alcohol
and someone was inside her.)
We grow up with built-in warning signs:
Don’t lead them on.
Don’t show too much skin, lest you provoke them.
When walking to your car at night, hold your keys like weapons
and walk like you’re prepared to fight to the death
because so many girls have to be.
At the end of her time with us, our self defence teacher told us
what had happened to her when she was our age.
I remember being twelve and the hyper-aware kind of scared
the kind of scared you get when you’re on a school camp
and you hear a ghost story for the first time
and they end it with, ‘you’re next.’
I remember being twelve and looking around the class full of girls
and seeing some of them with a look like they already have their own version of her story.
'A Generation Of Girls Using Car Keys as Swords,' theappleppielifestyle. (via theappleppielifestyle)