This blog is dedicated to helping women and men who are struggling with the aftermath of being assaulted or raped. I am also here to answer questions anyone may have about rape or assault. Being a victim of rape myself, I don't want people to feel shame, or like they have to keep quiet. This is a shame free, hurt free place to come and talk for support. Don't feel shamed into silence. Hopefully this blog and my story will help some of you, as well as help me cope with this horrible crime. **I am not a trained legal advice giver. If you feel like you are in immediate danger call the cops.**



alright listen

just because you dont break skin or use a razor doesnt mean it cant be self harm

just because they never hit you doesnt mean it cant be an abusive relationship

just because you can communicate in some circles doesnt mean you cant have anxiety or socializing issues

just because you have a good day doesnt mean you cant have depression

Do not let your perception of how your struggle should be silence you. Your problems are real and they deserve attention.


a seventeen magazine article this month actually truly says stuff reassuring girls that “not all feminists are hairy” and “don’t worry, feminism isn’t a movement, you don’t have to do anything crazy, it’s totally PERSONAL”


please tell girls it IS a movement, a movement that will love and accept them, a movement that has paved the way for their success! tell them they CAN BE HAIRY!!! GIRLS ARE HAIRY! They can stay that way!!!


if ur opinion is shit and racist and misogynistic and homophobic u do not get to play the “everybody has their own opinion” card

RECOVERY, some people make it look so damn simple. Well, it’s not - It’s a fight, every single day. Remember that.

I was told by the second detective that they don’t have the same training that SVU has, they’ve had to talk to 3 year olds and they had a hard time talking to them. SVU by me also goes to a certain age, unless its a kidnapping or a break in.

I wanna start a petition to change it. Any thoughts?

I’m open to suggestions :) I want to make it so that victims feel a little safer about reporting.


The detectives spoke to TJ on February 13th, and of course he denied it. and to be honest I wasn’t surprised that he did. 

He didn’t believe the detectives at first, he actually had to google the number of the precinct and call the desk. He told them it was all consensual, that whenever I said no or stop he just switched positions. He said that I was the one who spoke more about the dildo than he did. All lies.

The worst part? He actually had the balls to say that he felt bad that I feel this way! That made me so uneasy.

He raped me. I know and he knows it. The new detective that I spoke too even gave me the vibe that he believed me.  But because there wasn’t even a small amount of beyond a reasonable doubt, my case is closed. But if he consents, I get to read him a victim impact letter.

But my IAB case against the catching detective is still on going. He’s more than likely going to get extra sensitivity training.


They’re going to investigate the detective and then hopefully they bring in TJ and let him know that he didn’t win.

Now I just wait


I went to Internal Affairs and they took my report on the officer who was supposed to be handling my case. A detective has it and is going to investigate him, hopefully.

When I called the sergeant of detectives for a change he told me that they didn’t do that. I thought that was a little strange cause I feel like they should allow someone to be able to have that option if they don’t feel comfortable. He asked why I wanted a change and he was trying to cover up a tiny bit. When I told him that Internal Affairs has been notified he changed his tune. He said hed get back to me and he still hasn’t, its been a month. I’m not too worried since IA has it now.

I also have been experiencing repressed memory clashes of being molested as a child by an older female cousin. I noticed it surfacing over the summer, but I didn’t think that it would have the effect it has on me now. I’m angry and sickened and saddened by it. I do know for sure that I’m not telling my family about it.